The End Goal in Relationships: Q&A with Bobby Meacham
When a Gutsy Faith reel about relationships went viral on our Instagram account, we took note of the interest and response. The video showed women asking “Where?” when presented with statements like, “A man that leads…A man that prays…A man that reads his Bible!”
Bobby and Gari have been married over forty years, and he’s our “go to” when we want to understand the way men think and how they process in relationships. Bobby explains that many men are “end goal” oriented when it comes to growth and relationships. They tend to think from a goal they want to attain and work backwards, while women want growth NOW! Because we approach growth differently, it can cause friction in relationships when a woman pressures a man to lead or pray and read the Bible. Rather than help, we can end up trying to control the situation rather than letting God cause the growth.
Bobby talks about the turning points, or maturity markers, in his life that helped shape his manhood. Marriage can actually become an idol when we worship the hype of a wedding rather than the true purpose of why God created the union between a man and woman.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says, “Two can accomplish more than twice as much as one, for the results can be much better. If one falls, the other pulls him up, but if a man falls when he’s alone, he’s in trouble. Also, on a cold night, two under the same blanket gain warmth from each other, but how can one be warm alone? And one standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer, three is even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.”
Jesus is the third strand in the triple cord—and if done right, a relationship will help us conquer the world and its hardships as we learn to trust one another and grow.
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